Lemon Drops No 6

Never compare children; Head to heart; Evelyn Hugo

This Week’s Drops

💧 Why comparison never motivates—and what to say instead
💧 A reminder that wisdom means moving from head to heart
💧 Evelyn Hugo and how our stories are so much more than their headlines

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Never, ever compare your children.

No matter how tempting it may be to use one child’s accomplishments to motivate another—don’t. It never lands the way we hope. Comparison fosters resentment, not resilience. Instead, speak to each child as their own person. Reflect back their individual growth: “You’ve grown so much since last year,” not “You’re almost as good as your brother.” Our children blossom when they are seen for who they are—not how they stack up. And as parents we so badly want to see our children supporting one another and not the opposite.

Quote I’m sitting with:

“The greatest distance we have to travel is from the brain to the heart.”
I love this. In parenting, medicine, and daily life—it’s one thing to know something, and another to truly feel it. And the hardest of all is to know it and feel it at the same time.

What I just read:

The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid
I read this for my book club… though the meeting got cancelled. What stays with me about this book is how a single label—like “seven husbands”—can define someone, while saying almost nothing about who they truly are. Her husbands were not her legacy. That number, that headline, didn’t capture her truth. It reminded me how often we let one characteristic overshadow a whole, complex life.

Have a wonderful weekend!

With Love,